“In between endings and beginning is a discomfiting neutral zone that most people would rather avoid, but is essential for personal growth.” -William Bridges, Transitions
Transitions are abundant in our lives and are often accompanied by a service, ritual, or celebration. We have baby showers to announce and prepare for a new life. We have birthday parties to celebrate the beginning of another year. We have retirement parties to acknowledge the start of a new life chapter. And we have graduation parties to mark the completion of school. There is cake, stories, high-fives, and an eye towards the future.
It’s true that celebrations were a bit minimal this year, but we can still create a feeling of transition for ourselves and our teens by reflecting on the past and creating excitement for the future.
In his book Transitions, William Bridges writes that “Change is situational. Transition is psychological.” We will have to do our best to create an atmosphere and opportunity for transition in our homes.
It’s the discarding of one identity and creation of a new one. This requires self-reflection and awareness.
It’s ok to mourn the loss of your traditional celebrations and ceremonies. But your teen needs you to step into the change and support their transition.
And by the way, don’t forget that you will be transitioning too. Take the time to reflect on the differences that you as a parent will experience in the upcoming school year.
Coach Sheri
